How to Negotiate Your Salary: Scripts That Actually Work

Most People Leave Money on the Table

The average person who negotiates their salary earns $600,000 more over a 40-year career than someone who never negotiates. Yet only 39% of workers attempt to negotiate their pay. The remaining 61% accept whatever is offered, no questions asked.

Why do so many people skip this step? Fear. Fear of seeming greedy. Fear of the offer being rescinded. Fear of an awkward conversation. But here is what actually happens when you negotiate: in most cases, you get more money. Studies show that 85% of people who ask for a higher salary receive one. The other 15% simply get the original offer — not a rejection, not a rescinded offer, just the same number they started with.

This guide gives you the exact words to use in every salary negotiation scenario. No vague advice about "knowing your worth." Actual scripts you can practice and use verbatim.

Before You Negotiate: The Preparation

Negotiation is won or lost before the conversation starts. Skip the preparation, and no script will save you. Do these four things first.

1. Research Your Market Value

You cannot negotiate effectively without knowing what the market pays for your role. Use these free resources:

• Glassdoor Salary Explorer — filter by role, location, experience level, and company
• Levels.fyi — the gold standard for tech salaries, includes total compensation data
• Payscale — detailed salary reports based on your specific background
• LinkedIn Salary Insights — data from LinkedIn members in similar roles
• Bureau of Labor Statistics — government data by occupation and region

Gather salary ranges from at least three sources. Identify the 25th percentile, median, and 75th percentile for your role. Your target should be at or above the 75th percentile if you have strong qualifications.

2. Document Your Accomplishments

Make a list of specific, quantifiable achievements:

• "Increased team efficiency by 30% by implementing automated testing pipeline"
• "Generated $2.1M in new revenue through redesigned customer onboarding flow"
• "Reduced customer churn by 15% through proactive support initiative"

Numbers are powerful. Vague statements like "I worked hard" or "I contributed a lot" carry no weight. If you cannot quantify an achievement directly, quantify its impact: "Led migration to new CRM that now serves 12,000 daily users."

3. Know Your BATNA

BATNA stands for Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement. In plain terms: what will you do if this negotiation does not go your way? Your alternatives might include:

• Another job offer
• Staying at your current job (if you are negotiating for a new role)
• Freelancing or consulting
• Pursuing a different opportunity

A strong BATNA gives you genuine leverage. If you have another offer paying $130,000 and the company is offering $120,000, you negotiate from a position of strength. If you have no alternatives and desperately need this job, your leverage is limited — but you should still negotiate.

4. Determine Your Numbers

Set three numbers before the conversation:

• Target: What you realistically want (this is what you aim for)
• Anchor: The first number you will say, 10-20% above your target (negotiation starting point)
• Walk-away: The lowest number you will accept (below this, you decline)

Write these numbers down. During a negotiation, emotions can cloud judgment. Having predetermined numbers keeps you grounded.

Script 1: Negotiating an Initial Job Offer

The company just offered you $95,000. Your research shows the market rate is $100,000-$120,000 for your experience level. Here is what to say:

Step 1: Express enthusiasm (never negotiate cold)

"Thank you so much for the offer. I am genuinely excited about this role and the team. The work on [specific project] is exactly the kind of challenge I am looking for."

Step 2: Transition to the negotiation

"I have done some research on market rates for this role given my experience and qualifications, and I was hoping we could discuss the compensation. Based on my research through Glassdoor and Levels.fyi, and considering my [X years] of experience and track record of [specific achievement], I was expecting something in the range of $115,000 to $120,000. Is there flexibility on the base salary?"

Step 3: Handle their response

If they say they can do $105,000:

"I appreciate you working with me on this. $105,000 is closer, but I want to be transparent — my research and my other conversations put the market rate for someone with my background closer to $115,000. Could we meet closer to $112,000? I am confident I will deliver value well beyond that number based on my track record of [achievement]."

If they say the budget is firm at $95,000:

"I understand budget constraints. I really want to make this work. Could we explore other parts of the package? For example, I would be open to discussing a signing bonus, additional equity, an earlier performance review at the six-month mark, additional PTO, or a remote work stipend."

Key rules:

• Always let them name the first number if possible
• Never accept on the spot — always ask for 24-48 hours to review
• Be collaborative, not combative. You are on the same team

Script 2: Asking for a Raise at Your Current Job

You have been in your role for over a year, you are performing well, and your salary has not kept pace with the market. Here is how to ask.

Step 1: Request the meeting

Send your manager an email or Slack message:

"Hi [Manager], I would like to schedule some time to discuss my compensation. I have been reflecting on my contributions over the past year and would love to have a conversation about my growth here. Would you have 30 minutes this week or next?"

Do not ambush your manager. Give them time to prepare.

Step 2: Open the conversation

"Thank you for making time for this. I want to start by saying I really enjoy working here and I am committed to [team/company]. Over the past [timeframe], I have taken on additional responsibilities and delivered some strong results that I would like to walk through."

Step 3: Present your case

"Specifically, I have [achievement 1 with numbers], [achievement 2 with numbers], and [achievement 3 with numbers]. I have also taken on [additional responsibility] which was outside my original role scope. Given these contributions and my research on current market rates for someone in my position with my experience, I believe an adjustment to $[target number] would be appropriate. This aligns with the [75th percentile/median] for [role] in [city] based on data from [source]."

Step 4: Handle objections

If they say "budgets are tight right now":

"I understand the budget situation. Could we agree on a specific timeline? For example, could we revisit this in three months with a plan to adjust my compensation at that point? I would also be open to discussing other forms of recognition like a one-time bonus, additional equity, or expanded benefits."

If they say "you need to demonstrate more before we can increase your salary":

"I appreciate that feedback. Could you be specific about what milestones or achievements you would need to see in order to approve an adjustment? I want to make sure we are aligned on expectations so we can revisit this with a clear path forward."

Script 3: Negotiating When You Have a Competing Offer

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"I want to be transparent with you because I value our relationship. I have received another offer for $[amount]. I would prefer to stay here because [genuine reason — the team, the mission, the work]. However, the compensation gap is significant. Is there anything we can do to close that gap? I do not want compensation to be the reason I leave a team I genuinely enjoy working with."

Important rules for competing offers:

• Never bluff. If you claim to have an offer, you must actually have one. Getting caught bluffing destroys your credibility permanently.
• Do not issue ultimatums. Frame it as a preference to stay, not a threat to leave.
• Give them time to respond. Budget approvals often require multiple levels of management sign-off.
• Be prepared to follow through. If they cannot match the offer and the offer is genuinely better, you need to be willing to take it.

Script 4: Negotiating a Promotion

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"I am grateful for the promotion to [title] and excited about the increased responsibility. I want to make sure the compensation reflects the new scope of the role. Based on my research, the market rate for a [new title] at a company like ours is between $[range]. My current salary of $[amount] is more aligned with the [old title] band. Could we discuss adjusting the compensation to match the new role? I am thinking $[target] would be appropriate given the expanded responsibilities."

If they offer a smaller increase than expected:

"I appreciate the adjustment. Could we set a clear path for the compensation to reach the full market rate within the next 6-12 months? I would like to propose a 6-month check-in where we review my performance in the new role and align the compensation accordingly."

Script 5: Negotiating Remote Work or Flexibility

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"I have been thinking about how to optimize my productivity, and I would like to discuss the possibility of working remotely [full-time / two days per week / a hybrid schedule]. Over the past [timeframe], I have demonstrated that I can deliver strong results regardless of location — specifically [example of successful remote work or independent work]. I believe a flexible arrangement would allow me to maintain or even improve my output while also reducing commute time that I could reinvest into work."

If they express concern:

"I completely understand the concern. What if we tried a 90-day pilot? I would commit to [specific metrics or availability requirements], and we can evaluate at the end of the period. If the results are not meeting expectations, I am happy to return to the office full-time."

Common Negotiation Mistakes to Avoid

Sharing your current salary first. When asked "What are you currently making?" respond with: "I would prefer to focus on the value I bring to this role and what the market rate is, rather than anchor to my current compensation. Based on my research, roles like this typically pay $[range]."

Apologizing for negotiating. Never say "Sorry to ask, but..." or "I hate to bring this up, but..." Negotiating is a normal, expected part of professional life. Hiring managers expect it. In fact, many hiring managers respect candidates more when they negotiate.

Accepting immediately. Even if the offer is great, always ask for time to review. "Thank you, this is exciting. I would like to take 48 hours to review the full package. Can I get back to you by Thursday?" This gives you time to think clearly and potentially negotiate.

Negotiating over email when a call is better. Email is fine for the initial request, but the actual negotiation conversation should happen in real time — phone call, video call, or in person. Tone, nuance, and rapport are lost in email.

Focusing only on base salary. Total compensation includes base salary, bonus, equity/stock options, signing bonus, retirement matching, health benefits, PTO, professional development budget, and flexibility. If they cannot move on salary, there is often room in these other areas.

The Psychology of Negotiation

Understanding a few psychological principles makes you significantly more effective:

Anchoring: The first number mentioned in a negotiation sets the anchor. All subsequent discussion happens relative to that anchor. This is why you should either let them go first (to understand their budget) or anchor high (to set the range in your favor). Never anchor low.

Reciprocity: When you make a concession, people feel obligated to reciprocate. If you say "I can come down from $120K to $115K," they are psychologically inclined to move from their position too.

Framing: "I need $110,000" sounds like a demand. "Based on the value I bring and the market data, $110,000 feels appropriate" sounds like a reasoned conclusion. Same number, different frame, very different reception.

Silence: After you state your number, stop talking. Most people fill uncomfortable silences by negotiating against themselves. State your case, state your number, and wait.

After the Negotiation

Whatever the outcome:

• Get it in writing. Any agreed-upon compensation changes should be documented. An offer letter, an email confirmation, or an updated employment agreement.
• Express genuine gratitude. Whether you got everything you wanted or not, thank the person for their time and willingness to discuss.
• Deliver on your promises. If you cited specific achievements and potential contributions during the negotiation, follow through. Your credibility in future negotiations depends on it.
• Plan your next negotiation. The best time to prepare for your next salary negotiation is immediately after your current one. Set a calendar reminder for 12 months from now to review your compensation.

Start Small If Negotiation Terrifies You

If the thought of negotiating makes you physically uncomfortable, start with low-stakes practice. Negotiate the price of a piece of furniture on Facebook Marketplace. Ask for a discount at a local shop. Request a late fee waiver from your credit card company.

Every small negotiation builds your confidence for the big ones. The first time is always the hardest. By the fifth time, it feels normal. By the twentieth time, it feels natural.

You deserve to be paid what you are worth. The only person who can make that happen is you.